To truly find your one true love, you absolutely MUST love yourself. If you don’t love you, how can you believe anyone else could love you? When a person doesn’t believe they are loved, they live with the constant expectation of abandonment. They expect to be mistreated, after all, why should someone else treat them kinder that they treat them selves? Why should anyone else want to be with them when they don’t even like themselves? Even the most beautiful people can find themselves in this place.
So, how do we truly love ourselves? The absolute number 1 must is forgiveness…you must forgive you!
Truly forgive yourself for whatever you have done, or allowed in your life that you dislike so much. Forget it. Put the past behind you. Take one day at a time. Forgiveness is not a one-time exercise…every time you goof, repeat the above!
Learn to say no when you are asked to do things you don’t like to do, go places you don’t want to go, and be someone you truly don’t want to be. Respect your likes & dislikes. Learn to differentiate between those things you truly enjoy and those things you do or places you go just fit in. You are an individual with unique desires and preferences…listen to you!
Third, BELIEVE! Believe in yourself. You have been given particular talents and gifts that will take you wherever you want to go in life. Yes, you will have to work at, refine yourself as you reach for your star, but it is within your reach…just believe!!
Once you learn to love you, you won’t find yourself in one dead-end relationship after another because you know who you are and what you like and you are not afraid to trust your preferences. It’s so liberating! Now, you don’t need to lower your standards, because you KNOW you are worthy of the love you hope for. Now, you can allow yourself to be loved because you know what a great, beautiful person you are!